Parents must know the signs of drug abuse

Recent events highlight the serious nature of the drug abuse problem in our local communities. The arrests of those running a supply operation in Asbury Park; the arrest of a student at Manalapan High School with 10 bags of cocaine; and the news that heroin use is on the rise in young teens should get the attention of every parent.

Often, we as parents instinctively want to protect or defend our children, sometimes preventing us from dealing with the real problem. Events then seem to take a course of their own; out of our control, with more difficult and far reaching consequences.

My wife and I have been in such circumstances. Our son Brian began using drugs in middle school, moved on to heroin and spent the last four years fighting his addiction. Unfortu-nately, Brian lost his battle and died of an overdose on Nov. 6.

The anxiety and stress we went through during Brian’s struggle does not compare to the emotional pain now experienced by our entire family. The loss of a child is the worst pain imaginable. It tears at your soul and alters your life forever.

Statistically, heroin is cheaper, purer and more readily available in New Jersey than almost anywhere in the country. The market for dealers now includes our middle school children. The risk to all of our children is very real. We are attempting to bring a very serious problem to the attention of as many people as possible. The issue of youth drug use is one that can be affected by parents more than anyone.

First, you have to believe that there is a problem. Even if you don’t see evidence in your child, it doesn’t mean there isn’t a problem in the community. Every parent should be informed; know some warning signs; be aware of resources and actions to take. Much of this came to us too late for our son, Brian.

We are participating with the Manalapan-Englishtown Alliance for the Prevention of Alcohol and Drug Abuse to promote an educational conference on April 6 from 6-7:30 p.m. at the Monmouth County Library on the issue of heroin use and other illegal substances among our youth.

A representative of the DEA will participate along with members of the local community and school systems. We believe there is a very real problem and that all parents should be informed. Parents are the key. Our actions can save a life and when that life could be your child’s there is no reason not to be involved. Please look for additional information in the local newspapers, through school handouts and the local cable channel.

Bob and Sue Scarpa

Manalapan